Aint messing with no BROKE brother…!

While I get that my earlier post was brief and concise, sometime its best to know what you and sticking to it. So many times we search for excuses to persuade ourselves that what we truly want is in fact not the right thing just because it does not conform with the norm of society.

I believe a man should be prepared for marriage or even companionship. The same way the woman should be as well.

A man must be financially comfortable before engaging in a relationship and therefore marriage. I think it’s very selfish for a man to marry just because he can or because he got a woman pregnant. This makes me sick to my stomach.

I see this all around me in Africa (where I am briefly living and working for now), so many broken homes because the male responsibility has been shifted to the woman who works all day and still comes home and cooks for the man.

Look, let’s be very real here, everyone has their place in a marriage or relationship therefore its piss taking when the other party becomes selfish.

Yes! It’s very selfish for a man or woman to just want to marry for the sake of it and not take the time to be mentally, emotionally, spiritually and psychologically ready.

Why should anyone put themselves in a cage for a minute let alone a life time.

If a man cannot look after you when you’re his girlfriend how can he provide for you as his wife and furthermore your children?

I am not a gold digger but I am working hard to make myself comfortable so any man that wants to approach me must bring enough to the table so when I add mine we will be highly comfortable.

But if you think I am going to be the bread winner then ‘bruv’ you’re dreaming….and dreaming BIG!!!

Nice don’t pay bills

Hey guys, long time…things are finally picking but story of my, now I have to leave and go back to London to tie up some loose ends…!

Anyway so, after talking my ’muse’ and source of inspiration I have something to share with you guys.

Recently people very close to me are going through some ordeals that are challenging me to stare my future right in the eye and make decisions.

Ok question:

Would you rather be happy single in your thirties, but comfortable enough to afford holidays wherever/whenever you want to, pay your bills and meet your mortgage payments on time and still have enough to afford little luxuries

Or

Would you be married with kids in your thirties, barely making a living, barely paying bills on time, never going on holiday because you can’t afford it

But

You are head over hills in love, you have a great partner and companion, you really enjoy each other and ultimately ‘truly’ happy!

I think you could all guess which one I will choose, but let me try and justify my choice. Whoever said money was the root of all evil was raised up in pure poverty…I don’t believe in depending on another person for help because I believe we all possess the ability to make it and make ourselves happy.

If you have noticed, when you allow people to give you things and meet your needs, they become possessive and over bearing. I hate having to answer to someone or having to justify my actions to another, I understand that this maybe due to the fact that I am very young, stubborn, selfish and headstrong, but I do not see myself in the second scenario at all.

Like Miss Turner said, what’s love got to do with it? I don’t care how good a companion your partner is if he cannot provide for you he is not a man…yeah I said it shoot me!

There could be a lot of arguments which will counter mine but this is my blog and I have the final say…lol…leave a comment and share your view…!

To be continued….

Black Sheep! White Sheep!

Hmmmmmm…I’m even speechless but I will try and find the appropriate words to express my utter shame and disgust.

It baffles me that after hundreds of years of oppression, bondage and struggle to gain liberation from the oppressor, that the black people are still chained under these psychological repression and tyranny.

So with all our knowledge acquired and modernization, why are black people still trying to be white?

According to “make me heal.com”, there is now a skin lightning pill in the ‘Makari’ skin lightning range of products that promises to lighten your complexion in 14 days. 

So now the creams are not enough, in fact they are not even powerful enough…some black people are so desperate to be white that they are will to alter their DNAs and their internal organs to quicken the process of self deprivation.

I have to also point out that this is not a cheap habit to feed oh…NO…(why would they make it easy…hmmmmmm…you are spending your own hard earned money on your very own foolishness and stupidity)

Vybez Cartel

Sammy Sosa

 

 

 

The 'beauty' that you are looking for!!!

These pills alone average from $36, but you cannot take the pill on its own, you have to buy a body cream ($47.45), face cream ($52.45) soap ($13.99) and so on and so forth.

I have no comment oh but let’s think about this properly, Africa and most black populations with the western world  in general are known for being (not exactly poor oh but) less rich than others, everywhere we look there is an appeal for a charity or fund or somewhat for a black person.

YET, for example people are spending GHC200 (equivalent to about $200) on the Makari skin lightening kit.

So the question is White better than BLACK?

Please send your comments below or email Thicck Madamme on: thicckmadamme@gmail.com

He’s an EX for a reason

Ok so this job is not as exciting as I thought it would be…I thought I will be ‘running around all day and going from meeting to meeting and associating with rich and glamorous people’, instead I’m stuck in the office from 9am till 6pm…oh! And get this…with no pay…LIFE IS JUST GREAT is it not?

With all this time on my hands I can’t help but think, lately I have been thinking

  ‘Why am I still single?’ and  ‘Why did my past relationships not work?’

 But one question that keeps coming up is, if given the chance, would I get back with any of them?

If you are honest with yourself, you will admit that this thought has often crossed your mind too.

So what is my answer? I say NO! because…. He is an EX for a reason…and a good reason too!!!

Let’s look at it this way, if you spit something on the ground, (even by accident) will you pick it up and put it back in your mouth again? NO! So why would you want someone that didn’t want you or you didn’t want at one point in your life.

I don’t have a lot of experience but I have experience heartbreak in a real long term relationship and honey, I don’t care if he is the last man on earth I will never take him back…! 

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate him, he was my first in everything, I gave him my all and though he gave me his all until I found out it was all a lie from the very first day…after 7 years of in and out, I find out on Facebook that he has made someone pregnant.

Can you believe till today, my guy has not found the courage to verbally break up with me or even say sorry or anything…!

In this case it will be easy to let go and say Never right? Ok cool!

What about when everything is fine between you and your partner and you decide to part ways mutually with no hang ups? Will it be easier and more justifiable to take them back?

Yes?

Well I say NO! why should you, whatever it was that made you guys go your separate ways has not been identified and dealt with, in actual fact it has been forgotten by the absence…!

Many a times we get carried away and forget to put ourselves first and actually analyze the situation…if it couldn’t work before, what make you think it will work now…!

Love is not BLIND, You are being STUPID…there is a difference…so beware…!

Don’t get carried away because you see your ex happy with their new partner and think that they have changed, they probably has but remember we respond to other people differently so just be happy and MOVE ON…!

What is your excuse?

In continuation to the last post, when talking to or reading about successful people we realize that most if not all were told ‘no’ at some point and were disappointed one way or the other.

The difference between those who are failures and those who are successful is the fact that successful people made the most out of the little they were given by life.

Let us look at Abraham Lincoln, he was raised in abject poverty, yet he grew to become one of the most celebrated presidents of the United States of America.

Franklyn Rosevelt was a man stricken with paralysis, whilst Albert Einsten was referred to as a slow learner and even considered mentally challenged. He was written off as beyond education and yet he is till this day considered one of the smartest men that ever lived.

Helen Keller was born both deaf and blind yet graduated with the highest honors and impacted the world immensely.

Gilda Meir, Israel’s first and only Prime Minister was a divorced grandmother…What is your excuse?

What I’m trying to say is simple; you can make it regardless your situation today. Looking at these people, all that stood out to me was not their hardship and struggle but their achievements. I realized that success is not dependant on one’s circumstances but rather on overcoming them. Personally, I don’t believe I can achieve anything without God…I believe the words of the greatest over comer, Paul and as he wrote: “if God be for us, who can be against us?”

In conclusion, I don’t care what you think you’re going through, be it good or bad, don’t dull…don’t use it as an excuse…get up and change your situation…!

For goodness sake even people in Iraq, Japan and Libya are hopeful of a better tomorrow.

I DARE YOU TO DREAM…!

WHATS YOUR EXCUSE NOT TO?

Don’t dull

If you’re sitting in a corner, don’t dull!

If you have money, don’t dull!

If you’re making money, don’t dull!

If doors are being shut in your face, don’t dull!

If everyone is saying ‘NO’, don’t dull!

A very wise man once said:

‘…if you look down on yourself,

No one will look up to you therefore

practice your ‘ABC’…

Accept yourself

Believe in your potential

Celebrate your uniqueness.’

Gone are the days when I used to sit in the corner and feel sorry for myself. I remember growing up and always yearning for attention, love and affection but never getting it but rather the opposite. This was due to a lot of factors which I will leave for another post.

Anyway, I always looked at my friends on their birthdays and at Christmas and just wish that I would get half of what they had next year…I was always silently bitter but never jealous or envious, just more determined to get what I wanted for myself.

You know sometimes we become comfortable with just sitting in a corner and getting attention for our self pity well all I can say is, if you’re that type of person, don’t dull, get up and get yours because no one will get it for you! All people will do is feel sorry for and hand you their left overs…you deserve the best and none will give you that but yourself…!!!

A lot of the time, people that have ‘made’ it become content and begin to relax and settle…mate, don’t dull because the time you take to chill, someone is coming up with a thousand ways to succeed you. Remember the saying that ‘you can rest when you’re dead’? Live by that and you will be fine. Work hard and play harder…!

Don’t get me wrong I’m not talking about greed here but rather determination. The same drive that drove you to succeed should not diminish but propel you further to greater achievements.

Location! Location! Location!

16^th   April 2011

Hey guys...greetings from Accra-Ghana. Those of you that failed geography in school, Accra is in the capital of Ghana which located in West Africa.

Forgive the long pause but you know Africa...network is bad here oh...lol

I finally did it guys, well half way. I finally plucked the balls to move from dreary old England to chase my dreams, as glamorous as it may seem, in actual fact the reality of the situation could not be more further from the truth but I have faith that God will work it out in my favor.

After nearly a year of graduating, I had only had a Christmas temp job in New Look as a retail assistant and an event hostess job at Hampton Court Palace for about 6 months all together. I had also been on job seeker’s allowance which gave me £105 every 2 weeks including countless interviews and wasted trips up and down the country.

I understand the economical climate and all that ‘wahala’ but I thought I cannot become one of the many people who hold degrees in one thing but are working in roles does not even require on to  be a graduate. I began to ask myself what is the point of all my efforts to graduate in the first place?

Personally, I do not believe in settling for less because of the obstacles in front of you now but rather see every obstacle as an opportunity to overcome and becoming an achiever. A lot of people in the UK are not happy with what they are doing but because it pays their bills, they are willing to JUST settle.

Call me naive but I am only 22years old, if I don’t take chances now, when am I going to do it? When I’m 30years with 3 kids and a husband?

No!

  

I refuse to be a statistic or just ORDINARY!

And you can quote me on this!

So wish me LUCK because I need it...!