A View from the BRIDGE

Perceptions

Have you ever wondered how people see you and what think of you?

No?

Well, neither did I

So imagine my shock today when my ‘postman’ referred to me as a person with No Future Aspects.

Ok so it all started last week when I had a delivery for my (up and coming) business. Anyway, the doorbell rang at about 12 noon and I answered opened, as you would. I was on the phone discussing a wedding I am organising with the bride, so after asking the bride to hold on, I and the ‘postman’ exchanged the usual pleasantries, I signed and off he went.

Today, another parcel came for me and lo and behold it was the same gentleman and yes, I was on the phone (again), only this time it was to my one and only side kick.

This time I and the postman did not end our usual pleasantries with just a signing and a good bye but by exchanging bb pins.

A couple of hours later, me and the ‘postman’ were engaged in a very interesting conversation. I say interesting because of the speed at which he had come to a conclusion about me. However, after getting acquainted with ‘Thick Madame’ (the posts on the blog), he was confused and decided to confront me.

According to him, he thought I was an AIMLESS person who just sleeps all day and just orders stuff online and basically EXIST!

That’s not all, (oh NO!) after seeing me just twice for about 8mins, the ‘postman’ was convinced that I had children, no future aspects, jobless and even called me a GANGSTER to my face!  

Surprised?

I was.

Not of his thoughts and prejudged opinions of me, but by the speed at which he had come to these conclusions.

I am not writing about this experience because I am upset with him but I am fascinated by this thing we call life and the process of how we can form opinions about people and hold on to it so passionately.

I am sure if he came to my house and I was dressed up (or at least showered) and not always on the phone his perception of me would have been different.

Or would it?

On the contrary, after finding out that I am a graduate, own my own company (legit and registered by the way) and have countless future goals, the apologies did not stop coming. But then this has left me wondering, how many postmen I have come across who also have this perception of me.

However, reflecting back on my previous post (At what Cost?) I thought there is absolutely nothing I can do but be ME and stay true to ME!

We are all guilty of seeing people and judging them by what we see or even by what we hear about them, sometimes we become so convinced by our prejudice that we begin to act on them.

Many people actually start hating people because of what their friends think and say about them. Sometimes, our narrow-mindedness are confirmed but many a times WE ARE WRONG!

Only thing I have learned from this is that, you can not please everybody so I beg you all BE TRUE TO WHO YOU ARE. This way when people get you wrong, you can just laugh it off because you know WHO YOU ARE.

Remember the View from the Bridge is not always as convincing as it may seem…!