Lead Us Not into Temptation

True friendship

Before reading, ask your self “Who is my best friend”?

Have you answered that?

Ok, now I want you to answer this question: “Why is this person my best friend”?

Not so easy to answer huh?

I have never questioned my friendships because I have always been open about how I feel about the people I claim to be my friends. But recently, I have been forced to sit down and redefine my friendship with certain people in my life.

In today’s society, friendship can be formed on so many levels. There are now many types of friends with different functions in our lives; here are three MAIN examples of list of the type of friends I believe exists today:

• Facebook/BB/Twitter Friends- these are the friends that we only see on Facebook, you know the ones that we keep track of ONLY through their pictures and profiles updates.
• Old School/childhood friends- this is your friends you went to school with and still keep in contact with BUT the only thing you ever talk about when you see each other, is the PAST! There is nothing wrong with this because sometimes it’s good to reminisce.
• Red Carpet Friends- these are the ‘cool & pretty’ friends that we want to be seen with. These friends only want us around (or vice versa) to boost their confidence or to boost social status and for reaction.

In light of this, how can one confidently claim true friendship with the other?

How would you then define your friendships?

Are you surrounded by real friendships or just confirmed friend requests?

 It is very important that we can answer these questions because it can lead us into danger and therefore TEMPTATION.

If you do not know who your true friend is, how can you progress in life?

You might think not think or value the importance of this topic because you thin friends come and go but note that our generation tend to depend more on friendships that even families. When it comes to personal discussions and seeking of advice, we often tend to rely on our friends and look to them for answers. When it comes to self esteem we look to our friends for approval.

So, think about this carefully, if the people you are seeking these answers from do not truly care about you, how will they recognise the NEED in your quest and CARE ENOUGH to help you?

True friendship IS based on care AND trust not care OR trust. The two must EXIST and remain in BALLANCE for a true friendship to exist and grow.

Friendship should NOT be based on one person feeling inferior to the other because real friends COMPLIMENT each other.

If you feel pressured to impress your friends, PLEASE pull back and evaluate the friendship.

There are no rules that say because your friend has sacrificed or been there for you, you are indebted to them to the extent where they are NEVER wrong and that your friendship cannot be questioned.

DO NOT BE LED INTO TEMPTATION.

There are so many people selling you fake friendship through many ways. Have you ever stopped to ask your self WHY?

• WHY is it that my friend is always trying to HOOK you up with guys?

(I call these BRIDEPRICE friends straight pimping your behind in broad daylight! SMDH)

• WHY is that he/she sees me struggling but all we ever talk about is how many shoes and bags her boyfriend/girlfriend bought them last week?

(Because they couldn’t give two monkeys about your struggle, all they need is someone to show off to so they fell better about themselves.)

Isn’t friendship loyal?

So why is your friend quick to believe what she reads about you on Facebook?

Why is your friend so quick to tell the world secretes you have told them the minute you have a fight?

Just because you’re in all her/his pictures does not make you a friend.

DO NOT choose a friend based on the exaggerated truths they tell you or post online. People lie to impress…simples!

Friendship should not be based what you think you can gain from the other, that is just Using!

Rather, surround yourself with people that will help you grow in maturity, emotionally and spiritually NOT people that will drain you off every thing you have.

Do not allow your self to be used for someone else’s gain all in the name of FRIENDSHIP.

IT’S A GIVE AND TAKE NOT JUST GIVE!!!

DO NOT BE LED INTO TEMPTATION.

Choose wisely!!!