The Next Level!

Rules of Conduct 2

Courtship/Relationship

So after agreeing to progress your friendship from dating to the next level this is where it gets interesting.

Guys & Dolls PLEASE make sure both parties know that you are now in a COMMITED relationship/courtship. This will avoid the embarrassment and heartache of the classic “but you’re my girlfriend though” announcement later down the line.

I have to admit I get a bit confused when it comes to courtship and relationship. I have found myself asking well, what is the difference?

YEAH! I know what you’re thinking (long!)…but if you think deeply, you will notice some differences.

For example, look at it this way, When I think of relationship, I think COMMITMENT, long conversation at night (you know till morning? No? ohk maybe its just me then!), all the ‘BABY THIS & BABY THAT’ (nauseating) however, when I think of courtship the thought of MARRAIGE surfaces. (scary I know!)

But when I finally gathered my thoughts together I came to the conclusion that relationship and courtship is in fact one and the same!  And that whichever way you want to look at it THIS IS WHERE IT GETS SERIOUS!!!

So here goes…these are my TOOLS to see me through (if I ever get there):         

• Let your self go and JUMP! If you took your time and dated patiently, you will have confidence that your landing will be smooth…(girls! knowing MEN…I say KEEP THE FAITH! lol)
• Do not get complacent and allow your partner to slip away

REMEMBER! You are still getting to know each other after all Rome was not built in one day!

• Keep the activities and some distance still - this will allow room for more effort to be made on your partner’s side and still keep things interesting. (You don’t want to get bored of him/her already)
• Start the introductions (only to people you KNOW & TRUST) avoid Face book if you can! (it’s a bit tacky)
• PLEASE! Refrain from jumping into his/her bed straight away (unless the chemistry is FIRE lol)
• You can KISS! (if you’re anything like me, you would have kissed him already but hey, I never said I was perfect)
• Open up a little bit more (family, fears, aspirations, future goals, kids, marriage…) There’s still NO guarantee that you will live HAPPILY ever after with this person BUT if you do, you want to make sure YOU ARE COMPATABLE!
• For the MONEY loving ladeez (& brovaz too)…THIS IS NOT permission to rob your partner dry… about “baby all my friends have got the new blackberries and Cici’s BF bought her a LV bag” so what…? Am very sure your partner appreciated your style (or something) when he/she met you so don’t insult them by being…well u get the point!
• Don’t think that because you are committed to each other you can get away with crap…like nagging and arguing about everything, for the girls and guys PLEASE do not think that you can all of a sudden start ignoring us and replying the 15 text messages, bbm pings and phonecalls when you feel like it!

The root of the word, courtship, derives from an ancient Indo-European term, “gher”, which directly translated means to “grasp or enfold”.  During this stage, please, allow your partner to ‘grasp’ and ‘enfold’ you both literally and metaphorically…*wink*wink*