So, I came accross this article and as sad as it is I had to share with you guys...! As the year draws to a close and we continue to grow and evolve, it is important to share in people's joy as well as pain to help us with our transitions and also to war that we have to be becareful what we chose to chase in life because NOT all that glitters is GOLD!
Please click on the link below and read...Be thankful for the little we have becuase GOD is not sleeping neither is HE ignoring your pain or sufferings! There is a time for everything in life so please be prayerful, watchful and patient!!!
Please pray for this young lady...!
http://habarizanyumbani.jambonewspot.com/2011/12/06/i-am-a-dying-african-bestial-porn-actor-stranded-in-europe/
Keep it Thicck
Thursday, 15 December 2011
Monday, 12 December 2011
Reflections
As the year draws to a close and I reflect on its events, I must say that I have just let it go on by without achieving anything. Well maybe I’m being a bit harsh but real and truly, I am not impressed with myself.
Ok, maybe I have achieved something, because I did move to Ghana as I said I would (plus other things). However, scary and challenging that has been for me, I did it and I am proud of myself.
But, 2011 was supposed to be my year of elevation…and guess what I had every opportunity to make it just that but what happened? I allowed FEAR and self doubt to overcome me!
You know for someone that is always preaching self belief, I really messed up! And this is the lesson here guys, we have to be careful to not lose focus and allow our own thoughts to deceive us. I admit, the year has not been that bad in terms of achievement but in my personal growth, I feel defeated because I allowed, the fear of conforming stop me in an area where I know I can succeed and be an individual.
On a lighter note, I am happy and grateful for this year because I feel elevated in my spirit and feel am getting closer to finding myself. I have grown a lot and matured along with it. I have learned to let go and let God, and am learning to face the truth and deal with it instead of locking it inside and being bitter.
I have elevated in my romantic life to…you know before so long, I have been afraid to love because the only man I ever loved left me when I need him most, my daddy (may his soul rest in peace). I have always found an excuse not to open up and allow myself to be vulnerable because I was not ready for the rollercoaster of a relationship. But now, I feel that I am ready to love and to be loved because it is my right to be loved and to be loved right.
I have elevated also in the knowledge of loving myself…enough to say NO to the people who want to exploit me in many ways than one. I love the fact that I don’t know it all and love the journey I’m on to gaining this knowledge. I love and accept the fact I am unique in my flaws as well as my perfections. I am not the wealthiest; I’m not from the perfect family, but then again who is? I accept my position in life and I am ready and willing to make it full and great.
You know, last year if you had heard the way I talked, you would commend the level of maturity that I am speaking with. I sounded like a fool but who can blame, even the bible says when I was a child, I spoke like a child…but now that I am old…well you get it.
Look, although this year did not turn out entirely as I’d hoped in the ways that I’d hoped, I am still grateful for all the lessons and growth that has occurred. Please, take it from me, it don’t matter how old you are or where you are in life, taking time out to assess yourself is very important because things may not actually be as they seem.
Self growth is the key to living a purpose filled life…if you are living a lie, how can your life reflect God’s Will and purpose in your life?
Sunday, 11 December 2011
‘Te Amo’ It means ‘I Love you’
Hello my lovely readers, I don’t celebrate Christmas so I cannot partake in the festivities or send seasonal greetings to you however I do hope that you are all enjoying your selves and that all is well with you.
I was just thinking, as I was cooking today and it hit me like a knife cutting through my skin that I have never been in LOVE before.
When I was sixteen and got with my first boyfriend, and after losing my virginity to him years later, it only felt natural for me to reply ‘I Love you too’ when he said it. And for the remainder of the years we were together, it just made sense to ‘love’ him because he was my boyfriend after all and essentially, my first.
But a year after we have broken up, I am faced with the fact that what I felt was not ‘love’ but comfort. I mean, I can’t dispute the fact that I don’t really care for him now after how things ended between us, I have considered whether this ‘realization’ was coming out of contempt or disdain. And I am sad to say that it is not. I say I am sad because it will be easier if it was because I was bitter than face the fact that I spent so many years living a lie.
I don’t blame him or myself for this because I don’t believe in regrets. I believe everything happens for a specific reason even if we don’t see it now.
Ok, I’m sure you’re wondering why I think I never ‘loved’ him.
Well, I don’t care what anyone says, there are certain things that we can only understand and grasp with age and experience. I don’t believe I had neither to help me decide.
I felt pressured to say ‘it’ back because I was afraid to lose him if I didn’t. I really liked him but I never respected him.
And perhaps the most important, I never saw him beside me in my dreams of when I would be inaugurated as minister someday. I could never picture our future together.
To be honest, our relationship lasted as long as it did because I felt I had to prove something to people around me. I had to prove to them that I was right and they were wrong and that I was happy. In actuality, I needed his love…I needed somebody to love me so bad that I settled for his (love) and allowed things to go on for so long.
I am writing this post because I believe there are many of us still in this predicament and cycle who refuse to stop and admit to ourselves that IT IS NOT RIGHT.
It is about time you put yourself first and admit the truth…just because he is good and ‘perfect’ does NOT mean he is the one for you…!
Stop holding on to things that don’t belong to you just because it looks good or it makes sense to everybody else. Most times we get with our boyfriends because we want to look good in front of our friends/family and the public at large, because we want people to say how lucky we are to have this and that…!
But remember...True Confidence/Happiness needs to approval...!
But remember...True Confidence/Happiness needs to approval...!
Besides, the question is ARE YOU HAPPY?
DO YOU really LOVE HIM/HER
I will not pretend to know it all because I don't and I am still learning, and with every epiphany I have, it teaches me how to grow from that mistake, let it go and evolve as a person.
I challenge you this month to find time to reflect on your past experiences and find out where it went wrong and make your peace because until you deal with it, it will keep haunting you…!
Do let me know how it goes…!
until next time, keep it Thicck!
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