Should wives get paid?

I have recently been given an opportunity to share my views on a national radio station here in Ghana (X-Fm/9pm till 11pm) and my first topic is ‘should wives get paid?’ When I got the email, my first response was ‘for what?’

It can be argued that wifely duties as well as motherly duties are the hardest yet most fulfilling duties a woman can enjoy in life.

So why this question?

In today’s society, with all the women empowerment and female independence I am not surprised that this topic is raised.

Here is the thing, when a woman decides to get married and therefore become a wife; I believe they not only accept to become a companion but a whole lot of things. As a woman, I believe it is your responsibility to keep your home clean, tidy and happy. This includes keeping your man happy, kids healthy, well groomed and happy. For that reason I do not believe wives should get paid for doing what is expected of them.

See to me this question is farfetched and nonsensical because it’s like saying should a child be paid for being a child?

Yes being a (house) wife is a full time job and you don’t have any colleagues’ o relate with and is often depressing but on the other hand, I believe the rewards are more gratifying and more rewarding than a mere promotion at a real job.

I believe a wife should be appreciated for the wonderful jobs they do every day because lord knows it is not an easy task.

Wives, good or bad, have to put up with a lot mentally, emotionally, psychologically, socially and most of all physically. Call me a feminist but I believe it is the wife who holds a home together. Men do their part but let’s face it, in today’s world the men are mainly useless and juvenile making the wife’s job even more challenging.  (we’ll leave that for another post)

To cut a long story short, if you are not ready for what comes with marriage please enjoy your freedom and independence because it all comes with the territory: the hard work, the emotional roller coaster, the joys and tears, the cleaning and home keeping and more of all the feeling of not being appreciated. It may not be fun every day but it’s a life you chose, you chose or had an integral part in becoming a wife so please, buckle up and enjoy the ride.

And men and children, please try and appreciate both the big and small things that your wife and mummy does and show that you value their efforts and hard work.