Searching for GOLD

So, I came accross this article and as sad as it is I had to share with you guys...! As the year draws to a close and we continue to grow and evolve, it is important to share in people's joy as well as pain to help us with our transitions and also to war that we have to be becareful what we chose to chase in life because NOT all that glitters is GOLD!

Please click on the link below and read...Be thankful for the little we have becuase GOD is not sleeping neither is HE ignoring your pain or sufferings! There is a time for everything in life so please be prayerful, watchful and patient!!!

Please pray for this young lady...!

 http://habarizanyumbani.jambonewspot.com/2011/12/06/i-am-a-dying-african-bestial-porn-actor-stranded-in-europe/

Keep it Thicck

Reflections

As the year draws to a close and I reflect on its events, I must say that I have just let it go on by without achieving anything. Well maybe I’m being a bit harsh but real and truly, I am not impressed with myself.

Ok, maybe I have achieved something, because I did move to Ghana as I said I would (plus other things). However, scary and challenging that has been for me, I did it and I am proud of myself.

But, 2011 was supposed to be my year of elevation…and guess what I had every opportunity to make it just that but what happened? I allowed FEAR and self doubt to overcome me!

You know for someone that is always preaching self belief, I really messed up! And this is the lesson here guys, we have to be careful to not lose focus and allow our own thoughts to deceive us. I admit, the year has not been that bad in terms of achievement but in my personal growth, I feel defeated because I allowed, the fear of conforming stop me in an area where I know I can succeed and be an individual.

On a lighter note, I am happy and grateful for this year because I feel elevated in my spirit and feel am getting closer to finding myself. I have grown a lot and matured along with it. I have learned to let go and let God, and am learning to face the truth and deal with it instead of locking it inside and being bitter.

I have elevated in my romantic life to…you know before so long, I have been afraid to love because the only man I ever loved left me when I need him most, my daddy (may his soul rest in peace). I have always found an excuse not to open up and allow myself to be vulnerable because I was not ready for the rollercoaster of a relationship. But now, I feel that I am ready to love and to be loved because it is my right to be loved and to be loved right.

I have elevated also in the knowledge of loving myself…enough to say NO to the people who want to exploit me in many ways than one. I love the fact that I don’t know it all and love the journey I’m on to gaining this knowledge. I love and accept the fact I am unique in my flaws as well as my perfections. I am not the wealthiest; I’m not from the perfect family, but then again who is? I accept my position in life and I am ready and willing to make it full and great.

You know, last year if you had heard the way I talked, you would commend the level of maturity that I am speaking with. I sounded like a fool but who can blame, even the bible says when I was a child, I spoke like a child…but now that I am old…well you get it.

Look, although this year did not turn out entirely as I’d hoped in the ways that I’d hoped, I am still grateful for all the lessons and growth that has occurred. Please, take it from me, it don’t matter how old you are or where you are in life, taking time out to assess yourself is very important because things may not actually be as they seem.

Self growth is the key to living a purpose filled life…if you are living a lie, how can your life reflect God’s Will and purpose in your life?

‘Te Amo’ It means ‘I Love you’

Hello my lovely readers, I don’t celebrate Christmas so I cannot partake in the festivities or send seasonal greetings to you however I do hope that you are all enjoying your selves and that all is well with you.

I was just thinking, as I was cooking today and it hit me like a knife cutting through my skin that I have never been in LOVE before.

When I was sixteen and got with my first boyfriend, and after losing my virginity to him years later, it only felt natural for me to reply ‘I Love you too’ when he said it. And for the remainder of the years we were together, it just made sense to ‘love’ him because he was my boyfriend after all and essentially, my first.

But a year after we have broken up, I am faced with the fact that what I felt was not ‘love’ but comfort. I mean, I can’t dispute the fact that I don’t really care for him now after how things ended between us, I have considered whether this ‘realization’ was coming out of contempt or disdain. And I am sad to say that it is not. I say I am sad because it will be easier if it was because I was bitter than face the fact that I spent so many years living a lie.

I don’t blame him or myself for this because I don’t believe in regrets. I believe everything happens for a specific reason even if we don’t see it now.

Ok, I’m sure you’re wondering why I think I never ‘loved’ him.

Well, I don’t care what anyone says, there are certain things that we can only understand and grasp with age and experience. I don’t believe I had neither to help me decide.

I felt pressured to say ‘it’ back because I was afraid to lose him if I didn’t. I really liked him but I never respected him.

And perhaps the most important, I never saw him beside me in my dreams of when I would be inaugurated as minister someday. I could never picture our future together.

To be honest, our relationship lasted as long as it did because I felt I had to prove something to people around me. I had to prove to them that I was right and they were wrong and that I was happy. In actuality, I needed his love…I needed somebody to love me so bad that I settled for his (love) and allowed things to go on for so long.

I am writing this post because I believe there are many of us still in this predicament and cycle who refuse to stop and admit to ourselves that IT IS NOT RIGHT.

It is about time you put yourself first and admit the truth…just because he is good and ‘perfect’ does NOT mean he is the one for you…!

Stop holding on to things that don’t belong to you just because it looks good or it makes sense to everybody else. Most times we get with our boyfriends because we want to look good in front of our friends/family and the public at large, because we want people to say how lucky we are to have this and that…!

But remember...True Confidence/Happiness needs to approval...!

Besides, the question is ARE YOU HAPPY?

DO YOU really LOVE HIM/HER

I will not pretend to know it all because I don't and I am still learning, and with every epiphany I have, it teaches me how to grow from that mistake, let it go and evolve as a person.

I challenge you this month to find time to reflect on your past experiences and find out where it went wrong and make your peace because until you deal with it, it will keep haunting you…!

Do let me know how it goes…!

thicckmadamme@gmail.com

until next time, keep it Thicck!

Ok...! My Friend just posted this on my Facebook and I must say I am so G L A D! Everything this girl is saying is the truth and nothing but the truth!

I LIKE WHITE BOYS!

                SORRY FOR THE DELAY IN POSTING BUT I HAVE BEEN LIVING IN THE SKY FOR THE PAST FEW WEEKS…!

SO THIS WEEK I POSTED A VERY CONTROVERSIAL POST WHICH GENERATED A LOT OF INTEREST FROM READERS. I READ ALL THE DIFFERENT VIEWS AND COMMENTS AND 

NOW I WILL SHARE MY OWN.

 FIRST OF ALL, ANYONE THAT THINKS THEY ARE BETTER THAN THE NEXT PERSON IS SIMPLY DELUDED. I DON’T CARE WHAT RACE YOU ARE, HOW SKINNY OR CURVY YOU ARE, HOW EDUCATED, HOW WELL OR ILL MANNERED YOU ARE OR HOW RICH, POOR OR CONNECTED YOU ARE…YOU ARE AND WILL NEVER BE BETTER THAN THE NEXT PERSON.

LOOK IT IS SIMPLE, BEING WHITE OR BLACK DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BETTER OR BAD PERSON IT JUST MAKES YOU DIFFERENT. I UNDERSTAND AND APPRECIATE THAT THIS TOPIC IS VERY BROAD AND WILL NEVER BE FULLY UNDERSTOOD BUT LETS NOT GET CARRIED AWAY BY SOCIETAL PRESSURES AND MARGINALIZATION. WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT AND IT IS NOT THE COLOUR OF OUR SKIN THAT SHAPES WHO WE ARE BUT RATHER OUR MORALS AND VALUES.

THE WHITE WOMAN’S VIEW OF THE BLACK WOMAN IS FLAWED ON SO MANY LEVELS BUT I CAN IDENTIFY WITH HER IGNORANCE TO AN EXTENT. I SAY THIS BECAUSE, LIKE THE TITLE OF THIS POST SAYS, I AM PERSONALLY ATTRACTED TO WHITE BOYS. MY FIRST KISS WAS WITH A WHITE BOY CALLED CONNIE… (OH THOSE WERE THE DAYS)

MY ATTRACTION WAS MISINFORMED AND NAÏVE…MY ATTRACTION WAS NOT BASED ON ANYTHING BUT FANTASY. GROWING UP IN LONDON AND WATCHING PREDOMINANTLY WHITE TV, MOVIES, READING WHITE NOVELS AND ALL THAT, MY ONLY VIEW OF A PERFECT MAN WAS A WHITE MAN. SO I THOUGHT IF I WANT TO BE WITH THE PERFECT MAN HE HAD TO BE WHITE…. THEN I GREW UP!

I STILL LIKE WHITE BOYS, BUT THE DIFFERENCE NOW IS THAT I LIKE BLACK BOYS TOO (AND ALL RACES FOR THAT MATTER) BECAUSE I HAVE COME TO UNDERSTAND THAT A MAN IS A MAN REGARDLESS OF HIS RACE OR BACKGROUND. SAME WAY A WOMAN IS A WOMAN REGARDLESS OF HER RACE.

I DON’T SHARE THE BELIEF THAT IT IS THE RACIAL STRUGGLES OF A PERSON THAT SHAPES THEIR ATTITUDES. I BELIEVE IT CONTRIBUTES BUT IT IS NOT THE SOLE FACTOR OF CHANGE.  PEOPLE BECOME BITTER BECAUSE OF THEIR INDIVIDUAL STRUGGLES AND HARDSHIPS NOT BECAUSE OF THE RACE THAT THEY ARE.

FOR WHAT EVER REASON BLACK MEN GO FOR WHITE WOMEN OR VISE VERSA, I BELIEVE IT IS A PERSONAL CHOICE.

TO BE HONEST IF A PERSON CHOOSES THEIR LIFE PARTNER BASED ON RACIAL ADVANTAGES OR ANYTHING RELATED THEN I FEEL SORRY FOR THEM AND THEIR PARTNER.

ME PERSONALLY, WHEN ITS MY TURN TO CHOOSE, I WILL CHOOSE MY PARTNER BASED ON HOW COMPATIBLE WE ARE ON A SPIRITUAL, INTELLECTUAL, SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL  LEVEL AND NOT BASE MY FUTURE HAPPINESS ON THE RACE THAT HE IS.

THIS POST IS NOT TO ANSWER OR SOLVE ANY ARGUMENT, IT IS SIMPLY MY VIEW ON THE TOPIC SO PLEASE FEEL FREE TO SHARE YOU VIEWS AND ENLIGHTEN US ALL…!

A Black man's response to the White girl...

Dear Sonia & others

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.


Let me start by saying
that I am a 28-year old black man.
I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a
Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation
and have recently purchased a house.
So, I consider myself to be among the ranks
of successful Black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight
of why Black men date white women.
Back in the day,
one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood
were raised in the church.
They were very strict about when they
lost their virginity and who they lost it to.
Because of our impatience to wait,
brothers would look for someone
who would give it up easy
without too much hassle.
So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion,
a lot of brothers date white women because they
are docile and easy to control.
A lot of Black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Black women.
We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us,
drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.
Because of this fear, many Black men look for a more docile woman.
Someone we can control.
I have talked to numerous Black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is
to control & walk over their white women.
I just want to set the record straight.
I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not
all successful Black men date white women..


Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith,

Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds ,

Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Black women.
And, to flip the script, there are numerous
white men, in and out of the spot light,
who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson,
Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie and
Robin Thicke, to name a few.


I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop thinking that because
you are 20 and white,
you are some type of goddess.

Remember, when Black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties
and armies of men in Egypt ,
you were over in the caves of Europe
eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the Black woman that taught
you how to cook and season your food.

It was the Black woman
that taught you how to raise your children.
It was Black women
who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.

It is the Black woman
that had to endure watching their fathers,
husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.
Black women were born with two strikes against them; being Black and being a woman.

And, through all this, Still They Rise!


It is because of the Black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Black Queen.
It is not

just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them..

that I find most appealing about Black women.

Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls,
their integrity, their ability to overcome
great obstacles, their willingness to stand
for what they believe in,
and their determination to succeed and reach their

highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have
fallen in love with black women.

I honestly believe that your anger
is geared more toward jealousy and
envy more so than snotty looks.
If this were not so, then why do you continuously
go to tanning salons to darken your skin?
If you are so proud to be white,
then why don't you just be happy
with your pale skin?

Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips,
and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous like Black women?

Good Morning
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE:
If I were looking for a docile woman,
someone I can walk over and control,
I would give you a call.
But, unfortunately, I am
looking for a Virtuous Woman.
Someone that can be a good wife
and mother to my children.
Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles.
I am looking for a soul mate.
I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately,
you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty

A White woman's view of Black women

An article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a 20 year old
Caucasian woman,
who requested a response from black men.
I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!


Dear Jamie:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.


I am a White female who is engaged to a good looking, educated and loving Black man. I just don't understand
a lot of Black females attitudes about our relationship.

My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none.

As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean,
too argumentative, too needy,
too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.


Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men,
willing to wine and dine me and give me the world.
If Black women are so up in arms about us being
with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes.

I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public.
I would like to hear from some Black men about why
we are so appealing and coveted by them.

Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen,
the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams,
Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones,
Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan,
Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius , Berry Gordy,
Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes....
I could go on and on.
But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why
 
I wrote this so hurriedly.
Don't be mad with us White women
because so many of your men want us.
Get your acts together and learn from us and
we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA

STEVE BEDI: THE MAN BEHIND THE SAX

 There a few moments in life one gets to meet a legend (in the making) by chance and mere opportunity and I could not help but feel that way when I met the man behind the music, Steve Bedi.

Meeting Mr. Bedi was so surreal that I have been struggling to put pen to paper, but I will sum up the whole experience in one word: I N T E R E S T I N G

Steve Bedi is undoubtedly and indisputably Ghana’s only and number one SAXOPHONIST. His musical career spans over a decade. He is not only recognized in Africa but internationally. The genre that best describes his music is J A Z Z, although he is known to cross the boarders with ease.

His fist album, SYNCOS JAZZ, is full of ardor, soul and a fusion of collective sounds around the globe. I must admit I am not well acquainted with this style of music however; listening to the SYNCOS JAZZ gave me a mixture of both a feeling of excitement as well as a feeling of immense relaxation. It was almost like I was transported into a Utopian fantasy world.

Watching Steve Bedi on stage is simply amazing, his stage presence is not only charismatic but also captivating. His performance fuses his personal and original music with covers of mainstream (R’n’B, Blues, Hi-Life…) music.

The first thing that struck me when I met Mr. Bedi was his cool and calming demeanor  which was at first intimidating but this quickly changed as we began talk.

As we sat down to talk about his humble beginnings, I could not help but notice the twinkle in his eyes as he reminisced about his affair with music and therefore the SAXOPHONE.

The purpose of our meeting was not to necessarily to bring you biographical facts because quite frankly, they bore me but  rather to determine and understand the level of passion it takes to create such forceful and soulful sounds.

Apart from being in awe of his great personality and his passion for what he does, I was pleasantly surprised by his knowledge of the business side of the industry. This caught my attention because; a lot of people in this part of the world seem to get carried away by the so-called fame and forget to learn the ropes of the industry.  However, on the other hand, Mr. Bedi seemed very much knowledgeable and in control of his career.

I could go on forever, but to conclude, I must come clean that apart from his obvious charm, etiquette and good looks, I was most blown away by his determination and drive for what he does. Mr. Bedi’s story may seem common but what compelled me most to write this piece was the fact that this journey only began as a result of his curiosity of an unknown element/ equipment, the  SAXOPHNONE. After seeing this ‘thing’ on TV as a child, he became so fascinated by it and was determined to conquer the unknown. Today, we are seeing the results of this hard work and determination.

His story is not only one of triumph, strength and resilience but one of hope and courage. In today’s society, I believe Mr. Bedi is a great role model for us young people to look up to, that no matter how farfetched your dream may be or how impossible it may seem, with hard work, determination and God on your side, YOU WILL MAKE IT AND OVER COME.

CONTACT DETAILS

To find out more on this young but immense talent and the man behind the music, please go to:  www.stevebedimusic.org

Steve Bedi Music / Scratch Studios

117 Freetown Ave. East-Legon,

Adjacent Guest Hotel near the American house bus terminal. Accra, Gh
East Legon, Accra - Ghana, P.O.Box Gp 14454
Ghana

Phone:

(+233) 244 312 151

 (+233) 302 514557

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