Why is there a growing number of young women
Choosing to engage in homosexuality
And bi-sexuality in our society?
Please remember I didn’t have the resources or time to
conduct a national survey or research so these findings and indeed this article
is loosely factual and more common sense and opinion based.
Ok so when I got this topic to write on for a magazine
article I thought how the hell will I know why young women are choosing to
become or engage in bi and homo-sexual activities? I mean even the subject of ‘sex’
and talking about it is frowned upon in this part of the world (Ghana, Africa) how
much more the issue of homosexuality!
Indeed I thought this would be a challenge…until I began my
research…and by this I don’t mean conducting tests and doing surveys but just
having a good old ‘chinwag’ (talk) with people around me and beyond.
See what is interesting in my findings is that most people I
spoke with have had encounters and experiences with homosexuality, although
many of them insist on not pursuing or actively engaging in the actual act.
Most of these (in fact almost 96% percent of the) people I spoke with claim to
have first come to know about homosexuality in ‘boarding school’. I have never been to boarding school in my
life but from these testimonials, attending an all boys or female boarding and
at an age where your sexual curiosity is just starting to sprout played a huge
part in their experiences.
“…it was valentines and a girl wrote me a letter telling me she loved me
and I should meet her behind the canteen after dinner, so I did. I was excited
to also have presents to show off. When I got there she explained that she
loves me and wants me to be her girlfriend...this led to my first sexual
experience…” Beatrice, 28yrs
A lot of the stories I heard pretty much sounded the same and
yes its true most of these young women and men are now heterosexual and have
partners of the opposite sex however the topic we are discussing today is why a
lot of our generation are choosing to engage in homosexuality or becoming
bi-sexual.
More specifically, why are women in our society choosing to
sleep with women and carry on the pretence of a heterosexual relationship?
Well there is no right answer but in my opinion the words
GREED and CONFUSED comes to mind.
I say GREED because
most women (and people in general) these days have embraced this new found
liberation and gender equality ‘hoohaa’ and are running wild with it. In their
heads the saying ‘what men can do, women can do better’ means in EVERYTHING
including sex. I disagree and beg to differ. A lot of you with ‘open minds’ will argue and say it’s a personal
choice whom one chooses to sleep with and that is true…to an extent. I say this
because if this was entirely true, we
will not look down on or find humans sleeping with animals appalling and
disagreeable.
“…when I turned 21yrs, my boyfriend at the time was older and he
persuaded me to do a threesome with another girl…to my surprise, I enjoyed it
and ever since then I enjoy being with women. I mean I am not gay but I enjoy
sleeping with girls like when I’m lonely or something…a lot of my friends do it
so it’s easy for me to do it when I feel like it…No, my current boyfriend doesn’t
know that I do it but maybe when we fight or when he travels I stay at my
friends how and we have fun…” Constance, 24yrs
I say CONFUSED because a
lot of the women who are choosing to either engage in homosexuality or
bisexuality (in this part of the world) are mostly bitter and don’t know how to
deal with their bad experiences with men or in most cases process the hurt and
anger they’ve experienced.
I don’t disagree that this topic goes in deeper and further
but I am not a psychologist I am a writer and from recent trends in society and
listening to people talk, a lot of these young women are generally just fed up
of men taking the piss and toiling with their hearts and generally JUST curious
and bored. A lot of these young women have been sexually abused from childhood
or have just been sexually active from an early age so by the time they’re in
their 20s, they have experienced being with a man and now are ready to try new
things.
However, the confusion comes in when they think that sleeping
with another woman is the answer. I’m a woman and I cannot stand women! I have
very few female friends because the ‘WAHALA DON PLENTY FOR ME’ (too much drama
for me)!
In my opinion, although many of us, if not all, have encountered
or experienced homosexuality, the growing number of you young women choosing to
hide behind it by ways of safe guarding your heart and feelings is rapidly
growing and quite frankly it is sad and pathetic.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had my heart broken and
wondered why I even bother with men! And to tell you the truth, a lot of women
and people think I’m Gay or Bi-sexual, I don’t mind, I just laugh and correct
them.
In today’s society, there are many young; self sufficient, financially
independent and well to do women who basically DO NOT need the security that
man have been known to provide for women anymore. For this reason, when we are
hurt and disappointed, so many of us wonder why we even bother putting
ourselves through the lies and the cheating!
Whiles this is understandable, I don’t see how sleeping with
another woman is the answer because they can hurt you too, they are human.
I cannot judge anyone but I am entitled to my personal
opinion. This issue is becoming a problem in our society and as Africans with upstanding
morals, traditions and rich cultures, it is important that we discuss it and
deal with it instead of shying away from it and leaving it to affect and infect
our current and upcoming generation who are the future.
And men…it would help if you treated us right so we will enjoy
womanhood in all its glory.
TO BE CONTINUED...
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Till next time, Keep it Thicck!
