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‘There’s nothing wrong with having standards, as long as you don’t impose it on anybody’

What does this mean exactly?

Ok, what is the point of having standards if you're going to settle?

I get that you can’t impose things on other people but what if you find the right partner but they don’t meet you standards or vice versa?

Lately, I’ve been trying to date and to be honest, I have to admit defeat because I am having the worst time or luck if you’re superstitious. I have met about four men who have all pointed out the same flaw, or strength (depends how you view it I guess).

They all say ‘I am too controlling’ and that I like things my own way. Maybe I should be offended by this statement but I am not. If I was offended, that would mean that I do not know myself. This may be due to the fact that I am the last born and up until I was ten years old, I was spoilt rotten by my father, or the fact that I pretty much grew up with parents and practically brought myself up without much supervision, (although my foster parents tried). But in all views I know I’m controlling and like to be in control.

The question now is, is this wrong?

Why should I meet a guy and just accept everything he has to say without expressing my views too?

Most of the time it is not my intention to impose my standards however, why should I settle for your standards if I don’t believe they compliment mine or even relate.

For example, I met a guy who says he is in love with me and wants to have children with me. According to him, we should get pregnant before even thinking of walking down the aisle.  Now my response to that is a very cool, clear and resounding ‘H E L L N O’.

First of all, I have more than ten siblings and all were married before having kids so excuse me for wanting to follow that trend.

Secondly, I know better than to accept words of a man blindly. See to me when I hear those words, it translates in my ear as ‘I WANT TO FUCK YOU BARE’…!

Call me skeptical (and I am) but if disagreeing to this makes me controlling then I ask, what is the problem here again?

I accept that being in a relationship requires sacrifice and compromise and I am ready to do that when I get there but I HATE MEN THAT THINK THEY ARE SMART AND CAN OUT SMART YOU WITH LIES AND MAKE BELIEVE STORIES.

In conclusion, while it is not my sole intention to impose my standard on other people, I believe if I am willing to take your standards into consideration, you should too…Damn it…!