I LIKE WHITE BOYS!

                SORRY FOR THE DELAY IN POSTING BUT I HAVE BEEN LIVING IN THE SKY FOR THE PAST FEW WEEKS…!

SO THIS WEEK I POSTED A VERY CONTROVERSIAL POST WHICH GENERATED A LOT OF INTEREST FROM READERS. I READ ALL THE DIFFERENT VIEWS AND COMMENTS AND 

NOW I WILL SHARE MY OWN.

 FIRST OF ALL, ANYONE THAT THINKS THEY ARE BETTER THAN THE NEXT PERSON IS SIMPLY DELUDED. I DON’T CARE WHAT RACE YOU ARE, HOW SKINNY OR CURVY YOU ARE, HOW EDUCATED, HOW WELL OR ILL MANNERED YOU ARE OR HOW RICH, POOR OR CONNECTED YOU ARE…YOU ARE AND WILL NEVER BE BETTER THAN THE NEXT PERSON.

LOOK IT IS SIMPLE, BEING WHITE OR BLACK DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BETTER OR BAD PERSON IT JUST MAKES YOU DIFFERENT. I UNDERSTAND AND APPRECIATE THAT THIS TOPIC IS VERY BROAD AND WILL NEVER BE FULLY UNDERSTOOD BUT LETS NOT GET CARRIED AWAY BY SOCIETAL PRESSURES AND MARGINALIZATION. WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT AND IT IS NOT THE COLOUR OF OUR SKIN THAT SHAPES WHO WE ARE BUT RATHER OUR MORALS AND VALUES.

THE WHITE WOMAN’S VIEW OF THE BLACK WOMAN IS FLAWED ON SO MANY LEVELS BUT I CAN IDENTIFY WITH HER IGNORANCE TO AN EXTENT. I SAY THIS BECAUSE, LIKE THE TITLE OF THIS POST SAYS, I AM PERSONALLY ATTRACTED TO WHITE BOYS. MY FIRST KISS WAS WITH A WHITE BOY CALLED CONNIE… (OH THOSE WERE THE DAYS)

MY ATTRACTION WAS MISINFORMED AND NAÏVE…MY ATTRACTION WAS NOT BASED ON ANYTHING BUT FANTASY. GROWING UP IN LONDON AND WATCHING PREDOMINANTLY WHITE TV, MOVIES, READING WHITE NOVELS AND ALL THAT, MY ONLY VIEW OF A PERFECT MAN WAS A WHITE MAN. SO I THOUGHT IF I WANT TO BE WITH THE PERFECT MAN HE HAD TO BE WHITE…. THEN I GREW UP!

I STILL LIKE WHITE BOYS, BUT THE DIFFERENCE NOW IS THAT I LIKE BLACK BOYS TOO (AND ALL RACES FOR THAT MATTER) BECAUSE I HAVE COME TO UNDERSTAND THAT A MAN IS A MAN REGARDLESS OF HIS RACE OR BACKGROUND. SAME WAY A WOMAN IS A WOMAN REGARDLESS OF HER RACE.

I DON’T SHARE THE BELIEF THAT IT IS THE RACIAL STRUGGLES OF A PERSON THAT SHAPES THEIR ATTITUDES. I BELIEVE IT CONTRIBUTES BUT IT IS NOT THE SOLE FACTOR OF CHANGE.  PEOPLE BECOME BITTER BECAUSE OF THEIR INDIVIDUAL STRUGGLES AND HARDSHIPS NOT BECAUSE OF THE RACE THAT THEY ARE.

FOR WHAT EVER REASON BLACK MEN GO FOR WHITE WOMEN OR VISE VERSA, I BELIEVE IT IS A PERSONAL CHOICE.

TO BE HONEST IF A PERSON CHOOSES THEIR LIFE PARTNER BASED ON RACIAL ADVANTAGES OR ANYTHING RELATED THEN I FEEL SORRY FOR THEM AND THEIR PARTNER.

ME PERSONALLY, WHEN ITS MY TURN TO CHOOSE, I WILL CHOOSE MY PARTNER BASED ON HOW COMPATIBLE WE ARE ON A SPIRITUAL, INTELLECTUAL, SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL  LEVEL AND NOT BASE MY FUTURE HAPPINESS ON THE RACE THAT HE IS.

THIS POST IS NOT TO ANSWER OR SOLVE ANY ARGUMENT, IT IS SIMPLY MY VIEW ON THE TOPIC SO PLEASE FEEL FREE TO SHARE YOU VIEWS AND ENLIGHTEN US ALL…!

A Black man's response to the White girl...

Dear Sonia & others

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.


Let me start by saying
that I am a 28-year old black man.
I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a
Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation
and have recently purchased a house.
So, I consider myself to be among the ranks
of successful Black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight
of why Black men date white women.
Back in the day,
one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood
were raised in the church.
They were very strict about when they
lost their virginity and who they lost it to.
Because of our impatience to wait,
brothers would look for someone
who would give it up easy
without too much hassle.
So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion,
a lot of brothers date white women because they
are docile and easy to control.
A lot of Black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Black women.
We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us,
drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.
Because of this fear, many Black men look for a more docile woman.
Someone we can control.
I have talked to numerous Black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is
to control & walk over their white women.
I just want to set the record straight.
I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not
all successful Black men date white women..


Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith,

Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds ,

Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Black women.
And, to flip the script, there are numerous
white men, in and out of the spot light,
who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson,
Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie and
Robin Thicke, to name a few.


I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop thinking that because
you are 20 and white,
you are some type of goddess.

Remember, when Black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties
and armies of men in Egypt ,
you were over in the caves of Europe
eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the Black woman that taught
you how to cook and season your food.

It was the Black woman
that taught you how to raise your children.
It was Black women
who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.

It is the Black woman
that had to endure watching their fathers,
husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.
Black women were born with two strikes against them; being Black and being a woman.

And, through all this, Still They Rise!


It is because of the Black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Black Queen.
It is not

just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them..

that I find most appealing about Black women.

Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls,
their integrity, their ability to overcome
great obstacles, their willingness to stand
for what they believe in,
and their determination to succeed and reach their

highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have
fallen in love with black women.

I honestly believe that your anger
is geared more toward jealousy and
envy more so than snotty looks.
If this were not so, then why do you continuously
go to tanning salons to darken your skin?
If you are so proud to be white,
then why don't you just be happy
with your pale skin?

Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips,
and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous like Black women?

Good Morning
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE:
If I were looking for a docile woman,
someone I can walk over and control,
I would give you a call.
But, unfortunately, I am
looking for a Virtuous Woman.
Someone that can be a good wife
and mother to my children.
Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles.
I am looking for a soul mate.
I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately,
you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty

A White woman's view of Black women

An article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a 20 year old
Caucasian woman,
who requested a response from black men.
I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!


Dear Jamie:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.


I am a White female who is engaged to a good looking, educated and loving Black man. I just don't understand
a lot of Black females attitudes about our relationship.

My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none.

As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean,
too argumentative, too needy,
too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.


Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men,
willing to wine and dine me and give me the world.
If Black women are so up in arms about us being
with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes.

I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public.
I would like to hear from some Black men about why
we are so appealing and coveted by them.

Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen,
the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams,
Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones,
Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan,
Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius , Berry Gordy,
Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes....
I could go on and on.
But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why
 
I wrote this so hurriedly.
Don't be mad with us White women
because so many of your men want us.
Get your acts together and learn from us and
we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA